Do you ever watch the geese flying in a ‘V-shape’ and wonder why? Those incredible birds know something we don’t about working together in community to create a larger potential than any of the individuals on their own. They work together and rely on each other so they can all fly higher and longer.
I’ve been a loner much of my younger life. I wasn’t sure I could trust others. I believed if I needed or wanted something done – I could get it done better, quicker and with less stress by doing it myself. And off I went into the world – with that belief and understanding.
This idea served me well in so many areas of my life. I accomplished a lot and ‘nailed’ a lot of things down. I got stuff done – checked things off my to do list and made my way in the world in the best way I possibly could as a stand alone entity. Interesting, as I reflect back now, the idea that I was self-reliant, self-sufficient and needed no one was productive yet also exhausting and lonely at times.
I look back and wonder, what tainted my trust of others so young? Why did I believe it was ‘me against the world’?
Have you felt that way in any area of your life or do you feel that way now?
Looking back I can smile at the naiveté I drove forward with in my younger years. I also honour my feelings and trust how I felt in those years. I’ve spent many years delving into my inner knowing and beliefs. I continue to unravel the long set patterns I developed to protect myself and my life.
A large piece of my healing path has been my introduction to yoga and a healthier awareness of my own being. I have been drawn to know myself better while choosing to take full responsibility for my life (without blaming others). This work is exhausting and exhilarating. It is not a stand alone process! I need my circle – my community – to check myself at times, to listen to my insights wholeheartedly, to cheer me on at times and to gently invite a broader perspective when I narrow.
My journey continues to teach me daily about vulnerability and trust. Learning to open my heart again and again with discernment and healthy boundaries so I don’t miss out on opportunities to love and expand my life experiences. Learning that in this amazing, beautiful life, I need others to lean on at times – to broaden my perspective and soften my resolve – to let go of control – to be patient and kind – to gain greater empathy and awareness. I continue to learn.
we all want to connect
we want to know, love and accept ourselves so that we can love & accept others
we are here to ‘walk each other home to our hearts’ through living and interactions
we are meant to fall, get up, learn, heal and help others
we are here to learn about ourselves and life through our relationships
we are here to care but not carry others
we are here to both give and receive love (life & fully living requires both)
we cannot do it alone (not really).
Where in your life do you go it alone? Where do you harden your resolve & lose flexibility & options?
Are you willing to try a different way? Willing to open yourself to trust & be vulnerable?
Like the beautiful birds flying in a ‘V’ formation assisting the whole flock to fly higher and longer because each individual does their part and supports the bigger picture. They rely on their connection.
Do your work. Find your flock and cozy up alongside them – they will lift you higher than you can possibly imagine on your own. Strength in numbers. It’s time to FLY.